How do you live with critics?
When someone is being critical of you, what quality or virtue do you need to develop to have peace of mind?
Tolerance, forgiveness, or assertiveness for defense?
I think I vote for tolerance, after trying diplomacy to come to a mutual understanding, which failed. Yet, tolerance doesn't really help one deal with the person in question.
Perhaps forgiveness would be the most lofty of choices, but if they continue in their criticisms and attacks, and do not ask for forgiveness, then is it even truly possible to completely forgive someone? How can you forgive an on-going attack? Shouldn't it end before you forgive? Is is even possible to continue forgiveness perpetually while in the process of being attacked?
Assertiveness to defend one's self is the most obvious answer for me, but the defense is really useless. Why should you have to defend yourself for your personal views, or for something you did not do?
When someone is being critical of you, what quality or virtue do you need to develop to have peace of mind?
Tolerance, forgiveness, or assertiveness for defense?
I think I vote for tolerance, after trying diplomacy to come to a mutual understanding, which failed. Yet, tolerance doesn't really help one deal with the person in question.
Perhaps forgiveness would be the most lofty of choices, but if they continue in their criticisms and attacks, and do not ask for forgiveness, then is it even truly possible to completely forgive someone? How can you forgive an on-going attack? Shouldn't it end before you forgive? Is is even possible to continue forgiveness perpetually while in the process of being attacked?
Assertiveness to defend one's self is the most obvious answer for me, but the defense is really useless. Why should you have to defend yourself for your personal views, or for something you did not do?
When someone writes there will always be critics either constructive or derogatory. People criticize for different reasons the same way that writers write for various reasons too. If we receive an attack that is totally out of context, the best remedy is just to ignore it by just thanking and blessing the attacker. That way he will be caught off track and chances are, his true motives for the unwarranted attack will be revealed. We can never please everybody. We write targeting a certain niche in the blog world. If the target niche reads our posts, then our purpose have been achieved. Thanks for the post. God bless you always.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your wise words Mel. Thank and bless the attacker... simple, yet very effective advice. God bless you!
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